I have been following a website for working moms. This morning, a mom posted a blog entry trying to justify her decision as a working mom. This is probably the 1000th blog entry on why moms decided to go back to work. Although reading their blog makes me feel that I have friends out there, who understand my guilt, my struggle and stress, but I just don’t understand why working mom had to justify their decision on going back to work?? Very few stay at home mom would justify their decision.I don’t think “we” the working mom should justify why we are back at work, and took the path that we have chosen for us and for our family. It’s a personal decision, and no one should judge us on that. Most likely, the justification is to ease the guilt. Working mom's guilt is practically an epidemic. Almost all working mom have some sort of guilt. I know I have this guilt all the time, and because of this, I often tried to spend as much quality time with kids as I can. I try not to let the guilt get to me. YES, from time to time, when this working mom guilt gets me, I want to quit my job and stay at home with Darren and Kailey, but so far, I haven’t done so yet. That said, there is no guarantee that I will be a working mom forever, I might quit my job and stay at home with kids. You just never know.
However, almost 7 years into motherhood (and being a working mom for almost 5 years now) I’ve learned two things ---- No matter what the outcome is, how things turn out to be …. I am at peace with my own decision and stay away from those people who often say things that guilt me.
